Archive for August, 2008
Wedding vows: upgrades required!
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I have fond memories of my wedding. It was the usual big fat Indian wedding… a different function every day for the run up to the main event, a few thousand wedding guests, all the bollywood type dance and music, a few hundred ceremonies, all the pampering, shopping and tons and tons of feet touching and gift taking. I had fun! J
The only thing I thought could have been more meaningful was the wedding ceremony itself. I’m not sure if it was do with the undertrained priest that we had, or it is something to do with the ways wedding vows are made in the Marwari weddings. I mean this was the single most important bond I was going to be making in my life and the ancient wedding vows I was making ranged from a promise not to go to the jungle alone to having my to be husband promise me that he will not go dig a well without me!! Jeez… someone from the apex body of the religion should really look into it upgrading the wedding vows/ceremony!
I mean, don’t get me wrong. I am a fairly religious person. I do believe in god, heaven, hell and all the things in between. I would not want to in anyway want to ridicule religion and I do know that there are mantras to read, gods to be pleased, but would it be too much to update the vows/the way the ceremony is held so that it can mean something to our generation today?
Take the Christian weddings for example. They have a simple ceremony and hey, personal wedding vows! One to one, special promises to each other, which they share in front of their near and dear ones. I think that is really great. If there was one best practice that the Indian wedding could borrow from other weddings, I would vote this as one! We already have the engagement and exchange of rings as a wide spread practice in India now, even though it has no roots in the Hindu religion/wedding history, so why can’t we have some upgrade/personalization of the wedding vows too? What say?
Wine and Dine – Moches’ style!!
6This is the first of my review blogs and I want to start with my review of this delightful little bistro called Moches’ in Cuff Parade, Mumbai. The ‘townies’ might have enjoyed its existence for a bit, but for a ‘suburban’ like me, it was a pleasant little surprise!
When we (Abhi & I) had some friends ask us over to town for an evening out on a working day, I was as one would expect, grumpy! I mean who wants to go all the way from Andheri to Cuff parade after a day’s hard work? There are a million nice places to go to in the suburbs, then why, I questioned, did our townie friends want to meet in town? I mean I’m totally the go half way, expect others to do the same kind of person, so I suggested meeting in Bandra. Totally fair, one would say right? The only problem with that turned out to be that, I had been to every joint in Bandra at least a dozen times over. I mean I could be, and really at one point in time was, a walking talking Bandra eating/hang out joints directory. So much so, I remember a time, when I used to stay in bandra, that every one of my colleagues/friends who wanted to go eat/hang out in bandra would first call me to check on which place I recommended!
Anyways, back to the point, so the dilemma turned out to be, whether to go half way to bandra and do the same thing we’d done many times over or go through the torture of 2 ½ hours in traffic and sample a new place in town? (And hey, before one of you who might be a seasoned traveler on the Mumbai roads points out that there might be a wee bit of exaggeration on the time, please note that this is happening in July – a mean month for any Mumbaikar, since the rain makes the usual traffic, tougher and crazier!)
Well, adventurers at heart that we are, we decided to charter the unknown course and give the new a chance! Though with adequate warnings to the friend to pick a joint in town that we had never been to and would find it worth the while to be in after we’d been made cranky by the torturous Mumbai traffic! So on our quest we set off… leaving our Andheri east offices at 6 pm and fortifying ourselves for a long and ardous battle against raucous rains, psycho horn happy drivers, clueless mamus and adrenalin pumped bikers who have no respect for traffic rules and even less for their own safety.
As any quest would produce, there are many a stories about the experiences of Mumbai traffic that I can tell, but this blog is really about the review and I should probably be getting to it now!
So we get to Cuff Parade after our ordeal at 8:30 pm and I step out of the car to be greeted by a courteous valet, who gets a brusque, ‘point me to the loo!’ for his all his effort. (I did however, in the end, after I was topped up with bacchus’ divine drink, give him a goofy giggly ‘thank you’ to try and make up for the earlier brusqueness!)
So back to the delightful Moches’….. the place is small and quaint. The tables and chairs outside give it a little rustic french café look, while the well placed plants, creepers give it a natural feel. Sitting outside would have added to the whole charm of the experience if it wasn’t for the wet season. So we decided to give up the natural surroundings for the comfort of the A/c. The restaurant had only about 15-18 tables, these though making it a tad bit crowded, still managed to give it a cosy feel.
Am not really sure if Moches’ stands for something in french (it sure sounds like it!), but the menu had a healthy mix of French, Italian, South American picks and the wines were even more geographically spread. Like a traditional Cheese and Wine place, Moches’ does not have any offering for those who are not wine drinkers. So while it was a slight disappointment to my husband’s beer loving taste buds, it was a delight to my wine loving ones. In an Indian market with all kinds of alcohol import restrictions, it is not every day that one has the opportunity to drink something other than the regular Indian wines. So we choose the Californian rich red wine with much care and were actually quite happy with the results. The wines, since imported, were by the bottle, and were in the range of Rs 1800-2200 per bottle. The price aside, I thought the selection was diverse and well selected. The Cheese platter was traditional and had a variety of cheese to suit the different palates. Personally not much of a cheese person, I ordered some olives which went really well with the wine.
The Food indeed was praiseworthy. The starters were really just that… appetizers that did not take away appetite, rather laid way for the more sumptuous main course. The chicken skewers were nicely spiced and potato and exotic vegetable salad was an agreeable blend of fresh and sautéed ingredients. For the main course we settled for some char grilled chicken breast in red wine sauce and a beef steak in burnt garlic sauce. The garlic bread accompaniments were fresh baked and had a cooked with care feel rather than a off the shelf feel to them. For the second round of wine, we tried a light fruity french red wine which really got mixed reviews from our table. For desert, there was a wide array of top it offs, and honestly, till the time we got to that section, I was happy and beyond and for the life in me, cannot recall what I ate for desert! But for what it is worth, I am sure it was really good J
The attending staff were courteous, there when you needed, attentive but not intrusive. But maybe a little more attention to the table orders and cross verifying the cheque would have helped. Not sure if it’s a strategy or a mistake. They could have simply messed up our cheque or it might have a more thought through strategy of checking for the drunkenness of the party and then trying and squeeze in some extra items in the cheque that the party did not order. Anyways, we landed up paying for two portions of (I’m sure very tasty) expresso chicken that we did not order (at least we are quite certain of that, unless it came and went express fast and we did not notice!)
Overall, with a bill of Rs 7500 for 4 people, the evening was not too expensive, though completely enjoyable. With a relieved friend, who was happy his choice of place met with my approval, we set off into another adventurous foray into the Mumbai traffic in a bid to get home. From that journey, I have no memoirs, since I was in snooze land all the way back. All in all, a quest worth its efforts and a restaurant I would recommend to all.
Cheers!!
Employee Development in a Project Based Environment
0Many knowledge industries today work in a project based environment. These would involve individuals with different skills coming together to work on a time bound project and then dispersing again to join some other project team. In the IT industry specially, one would find this kind of environment. As an HR person supporting employees and managers in this kind of environment I have found it a typical problem that managers usually are unequipped to deal with the challenge of balancing short term project objectives with the long term goals of employee development.
We know the direct manager for an individual is key towards engaging and retaining him/her. And of course one of the key elements of engagement is supporting the individual to grow and develop. In an environment where teams are put together for specific purposes, the manager can only control opportunities/movements, growth plans within his/her project. Once the individual is released to another team, the new manager become responsible for the development of the employee. In such a scenario, who looks at the overall opportunities that the individual is getting and ensuring objectives of the development plan of the individual are met? Is it HR? It is the resource leverage/deployment group? How can these groups actually ensure developmental goals of individuals are met?
One of the solutions I have heard of (though never seen in action) are the presence of what we can people development officers. All employees are assigned to one people development officer and he /she ensures holistic development and facilitates the career of the individual in the company. But how realistic is this model? No company can really afford to have officers doing only this as a primary job. The existing executive structure would need to pitch in for this role. Is it possible to ensure success of such a program when everyone would have their own primary responsibilities to execute? Some thing as long term and intangible as development would most probably get relegated to low priority items.
How do we then deal with this challenge?
Terrorist Alert or Inflation Control?
0We all know about the multiple bombs that have been going off in all our big cities… Bangalore, Ahemdabad, Surat…. The scare is touching all cities with people in Mumbai, Calcutta, Hyderabad, Chennai wondering when the terror train will hit their cities, Astrologers going in mystic convulsions predicting the next city to be hit, TV channels having a blast zipping from one bomb site to another and causing more panic with their dramatic overtures.
55 dead and more injured… that’s just one of the more obvious impacts of the terror attacks. But what else is happening because of this? People across large cities are retreating in fear and decidedly not going out gallivanting in public places. Protective mums are telling their children to ‘come straight home!’ rather than hang out with their friends after work or college. So people are going out less, and by virtue of that buying less, spending less. And guess what will happen if this continues for a bit…? Inflation will come down…!!
For an economy which is being adversely impacted due to runaway inflation, these are desperate times. The government has tried almost everything from raising repo rates, CRR limits, lending rates, etc etc. But nothing seems to work to reign in the upward trend of inflation…. So in trying times, would it be too far out to think that the desperate government could resort to scaring its own population into their homes and hoping they will in turn tie up their purse strings? Just a thought.
The Power to Design our Lives
0As in all great designs, there is a very thought through carefulness to the whole randomness of life. At first glance it would appear arbitrary, random, but beneath it all is an intricate design waiting to be glanced upon, understood.
In terms of art, many would have experienced this with the great works of Woodsworth and Blake. For example, Blake’s most well know work ‘Tiger tiger burning bright’, on the surface would seem like a child’s nursery rhyme. But only a literature enthusiast who has spent time and energy to understand the true brilliance of the piece would be able to see the grand design behind this really intellectual poem.
Similarly, if one was to see the various things that happen to us, the experiences we go through as disconnected and random, one would be underestimating the greatness of the grand design of our lives. This is not to urge you to consider the power of something as vague as destiny, but something far more scientific than that. Science believes that for every action, there exists a reaction. That simple theorem translated in real life can help us see some of the outcomes of our lives as result of a great design… one that we craft in the everyday choices that we make, the thoughts we think every day.
This is not so much an original thought as it is my verbalization of some of the basic principles from numerous books/websites on the power of the Secret (ref Rhonda Bryne). For the unaccustomed, ‘The Secret’ is a hugely successful book on the power of thought and belief. The writer collates experiences and dialogue from the proponents of the secret and highlights how every thought that passes through our minds today actually shapes our tomorrow.
Some might say it’s out there or that it’s just a bunch of hocus pocus. For the scientifically restricted there will never be enough proof because human lives and outcomes can never be measured in terms of equations. But for the slightly open minded, this philosophy offers a great means to creating some level of understanding of our lives and how we can, if not design it completely, nugde it towards what we want it to be. Some simple concepts of thinking good thoughts, doing unto others as you would expect unto yourselves, believing something exists and thereby creating the space for it to really come into existence, etc… might not get you ready results. But practicing these can definitely empower you to achieve great things that you think are not possible now.
Believe is it there and it will be…. And believing never cost us anything. So why not try it?
Things one should know before going to/living in the UK
5This is not one the regular travel blogs that give you a list of things that you should keep in mind before you travel to/live in a new country. This is actually in addition to them. Clearly, reading the tips on the travel blogs is not enough to prepare you to live in a new country. You need something that tells you about all the mistakes made by someone who has already been there, done that. For example, someone like me. See I’m the kind of person who reads everything there is to read so that I’m prepared with info, makes all the lists there are to make, and has backups of backup. In short, like I like to believe, am organized and prepared.
So before I went to the UK for a work assignment, I did all the possible homework I could do. I read all travel blogs to the UK, asked (…ok, pestered) people who’d been there for all the info they could give me, got a friend who’d been there to write down a step by step process of everything I would need to do from the time I stepped off the plane to when I stepped into my hotel room (ok…ok…I know this is a little extreme, but hey! I was going out the country for the first time! You can’t blame me for wanting to be fully prepared!)
So this blog is for all those others like me who want to be fully prepared, but can’t find everything one needs to know. Below are a few things you probably will not find in other travel blogs, but should know!
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Getting through the immigrations, airport security, traveling through public transport etc are the easiest parts of getting to UK. But, if you’re arriving in the UK through Heathrow, then the first thing one must remember is that it is the busiest airport in the world! (A claim that Wikipedia doesn’t confirm, but really if you’ve been there, you’ll know it is infact really really busy!) So if you’re planning to land there at the really busy times (summer time and in the evening), then you should probably reconsider and pick an airline that gets you there in the morning. Evenings are busy and immigration ques can be long and winding. During the evenings, it usually takes up to 3-4 hours to get through the whole thing. And by the time you get out, the baggage claim for your airline is over! I’ve had a friend who landed on 6:45 pm flight, finished immigrations by 10 pm to realize that her baggage was locked up for the night because it was not picked up within the 2 hour specified time! So bottom line, take a morning landing flight and avoid the possibility of this.
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Setting up for living in UK is simple. Renting apartments is easy given you have the required bit of documents in place (which in case you’re going for work, your company can help with). The important thing to keep in mind is that the contracts for rent will include a very (and a mean really really detailed) list of inventory for the apartment. From the number of spoons, to a spot on the carpet are all detailed. It is best to run through the whole property with a magnifying glass and highlight current state to the landlord/agent before you sign the dotted line. Cracks, spots, tears, all should be highlighted before you take up the apartment or you might land up having to pay up for things you have not done or even forgoing the whole of your deposit amount.
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Appliances! Now this one’s for the slightly electronically challenged people like me. OK, I can use the micro, washing machine, TV, DVD etc… you know the regular appliances one is used to using in India. Well then what does one do when faced with appliances one has never used before… like the dish washer, or say the boiler, the wall heaters, home fire alarms etc etc. I can tell many a colourful stories from my own experiences on what can happen when appliances go awry… but lets save that for another day. The point I am trying to get to is that when you rent an apartment, ensure you get all the appliance manuals as part of the handover. Experiences of struggling with a washing machine which has locked in your clothes and refuses to open, having the dish water spew bubbles all over the kitchen and more because we put the wrong liquid in it, are harrowing ones… one which could be easily be avoided if one had the manual which details a ‘in case of problem list of items’ and contact numbers for service centers. ?
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Unplug home fire alarms before making Indian food! Now this is one useful tip you’ll probably not find written anywhere, but every Indian in the UK will tell you. Even with the nice chimney’s that are part of most kitchen setups it is quite likely that your fire alarm will go off because of the smoke that Indian cooking (especially tadkas) can create. Making some simple parantha can turn into a dramatic event of running around like headless chicken trying to make the screaming alarm shut up and then explaining to the building concierge and the fire warden what the fuss was all about! So bottom line, unplug the thing before cooking and ensure that you plug it back up because it really is illegal to keep it unplugged.
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Planning pays! Actually planning in advance will help you save your money. So this is nothing really unique to UK, because planning your trips in advance probably saves money in any country! But in the UK planning almost everything in advance will help you save. Your train, bus tickets can be bought in almost 1/20th the cost if you plan your trip well in advance. Even things like theater tickets, sight seeing tours can be really inexpensive when booked early.
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Being vegetarian in the UK. I guess being vegetarian is not easy in most countries, but in the UK, it would really be not one of the best things. (You know because of all the absolutely great authentic British food that one would be missing! ) Anyways, so if you are a vegetarian, then you should probably remember that in UK, fish and eggs are considered vegetarian. So be careful when you ask for vegetarian food. Responses I have got when I ask for vegetarian food vary from blank stares like they have never heard of that word to a smiling face that asks whether I would like it with egg or fish!
Well, thats that… those are the gems of wisdom I’ve got so far. I do hope some of this will help some of you, but hey, it’s always fun making your own mistakes and having your own fun stories to tell. So for now, Cheers Mate!